Being bisexual and married
Can I Still Be Multi-attracted If I Married A Man?
Nothing tests a fresh marriage quite like spending roughly % of your time together. Add in a historic breakdown of our democracy and the highest unemployment rates since , and it becomes easy to see how the pandemic caused a spike in global divorce and breakup rates.
While we’ve had our fair contribute of stress — including battling COVID together — and marital conflict, my relationship with my husband has actually grown stronger during this time.
My active theory behind why is simple: since we hold no place to obscure we must be radically transparent with one another and hope we’ll be accepted.
If you’re like me and grew up in a strict household, you’ll recognize just how complicated radical transparency can be in practice. To enable down your guards, making yourself vulnerable to harm?
No, thank you. I’d rather chew glass.
Still, we somehow found ourselves breaking down our walls and revisiting old conversation points.
Of these conversations, one topic in particular loomed above me like a dark cloud. Ever since getting married, I’ve felt a di
I was 37 years old when I started to dial myself bisexual. In hindsight, it&#;s beautiful clear I was always bisexual, but it took a very long time for me to lay a concrete designate to it.
At least early on, it had a lot to do with where and when I grew up. Calling someone a &#;fag&#; was virtually a daily insult among my peers. HIV/AIDS was still very recent, very scary, and very much a &#;gay&#; disease. And, most importantly, none of the recent acceptance of homosexuality had even begun to surface in my world. Life was super, super difficult for gay people back then, and if you had those impulses you sure as hell didn&#;t act on them if you could manage not to. Plus, I was definitely interested in women, so I couldn&#;t be gay, right?
The second reason it took so long is my wife, and for all the very best reasons. She is the most extraordinary person I&#;ve ever met: of any gender. She is the most joyful, nurturing, and loving person I&#;ve ever met. She&#;s wonderfully bright and dedicated. Most of all, she&#;s honest, calm, patient, and rational. I cannot even fantasize fin
I’m Bisexual, I’m Married, and I Want to Explore My Sexuality. ‘Does That Make Me a Stereotype?’
Not to be cheesy, but your only job is to be yourself.
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I feel like more and more, I hear about bisexuals organism greedy and “slutty” and not knowing what they want. It’s an awful, harmful stereotype. I know that. But what if it’s… true? For me?
I’m married (monogamous) and I want to explore my sexuality, and it’s pretty much a nightmare approach to life. I don’t long to give any more accuracy to a stereotype that has made my life, and the life of bisexual people, rigid for so long. But I also feel like I’m denyin
I Realized I Was Attracted to both genders After 13 Years of Marriage. Here's What Happened
I fell in love with Emily four years ago. I’d just turned 40 and she bounced her way over to me at a kid’s birthday party at a local bounce house. Our kids were in the identical class at school, and we’d been to a bunch of the identical parties and seen each other at drop-off. But we had never really chatted.
We quickly realized we both loved soccer and decided to join a team together. The tracking weekend, we went out for postgame drinks and stayed until the lock closed. We just couldn’t stop talking.
Quickly, we fell into the routine of texting all day, every day, and it gave me constant butterflies. I wrote it off as “new friend excitement.” When it didn’t subside, I started to wonder, Do I have a love interest on this woman? I told no one and spent many nights staring at the ceiling wondering what was going on with me. After a couple weeks of grabbing drinks after soccer and doing playdates with the kids in the park, we scheduled a content hour. On the time of our meeting, she texted that her daughter was sick and
I Realized I Was Attracted to both genders After 13 Years of Marriage. Here's What Happened
I fell in love with Emily four years ago. I’d just turned 40 and she bounced her way over to me at a kid’s birthday party at a local bounce house. Our kids were in the identical class at school, and we’d been to a bunch of the identical parties and seen each other at drop-off. But we had never really chatted.
We quickly realized we both loved soccer and decided to join a team together. The tracking weekend, we went out for postgame drinks and stayed until the lock closed. We just couldn’t stop talking.
Quickly, we fell into the routine of texting all day, every day, and it gave me constant butterflies. I wrote it off as “new friend excitement.” When it didn’t subside, I started to wonder, Do I have a love interest on this woman? I told no one and spent many nights staring at the ceiling wondering what was going on with me. After a couple weeks of grabbing drinks after soccer and doing playdates with the kids in the park, we scheduled a content hour. On the time of our meeting, she texted that her daughter was sick and