My son says hes gay
Help! My Son is Gay
by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director
“So should I push my son towards women now?” That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with same gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality. But the answer to their son’s struggle is not to push him into the arms of a woman. In evidence, such a move could actually do more damage than good.
But what should a dad do for his son? In a word: connect! I comprehend when saying that many dads might think, “I am associated to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.” But the fact is that simply being present doesn’t indicate you have any kind of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can hear and realize. Proclamations of facts do short-lived to move his heart. He wants words dripping with crude emotion and heart-felt passion. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him. In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in hi
What I Did When My Year-Old Son Came Out as Gay
My son was 11 years old when he told me he was bisexual. I honestly would’ve been less surprised if he’d pulled out a switchblade and told me he’d joined the Warriors street gang.
“Thank you for confiding in me,” I told him. I only knew to tell that because I was the last parent in my social circle with a kid to arrive out as either lgbtq+, bi or gender nonbinary. A global survey conducted in 27 countries (including the U.S.) and released last June found that nearly 1 in 5 young adults — those born after , otherwise known as Generation Z — identify as something other than straight.
But you know what doesn’t facilitate when you’re sitting in a car with your year-old as he tells you that he’s sexually attracted to both boys and girls? Statistics. You could tell me 1 in 5 Gen Zers are growing goatees, and my first thought would still be, My son is too young for a goatee!
According to Christy Olezeski, the director and cofounder of the Yale Pediatric Gender program, my first reaction was the right one. “The parent should say, ‘Thank
5 Powerful Things You Can Do If Your Child Tells You, "I'm Gay."
You may not possess been expecting to hear the words "I'm gay" from your child. Not only did you never envision it, but your religious beliefs and standards also do not align with queer relationships. So, what do you execute now? How execute you respond to your child telling you they're gay?
As a parent, you may have had the inclination that your child may be gay. As a result, the news may simply confirm your suspicions, and the conversation may be simple. On the opposite, you may sense angry or shocked. Likewise, you may struggle with the idea and contain a natural tendency to shut down the conversation or put it off as merely a phase they're going through. In existence, regardless of how you feel, the way you respond in the first five minutes could set the tone for your youngster for years to come.
In this article, we'll discuss the critical moments after your child comes to you and says, "I'm gay." With the aid of Dr. Devon Mills is a licensed therapist in Atlanta, GA, we'll highlight five po
Dear Dr. G.,
I am beside myself. My year-old son and I got into a bit of a heated argument this weekend and in the midst of it my son said he's gay. I was so shocked that I ignored his comment and ended the argument. I have spoken to my husband about this. My husband says that he has always mind that our son is gay and that if he's gay, he's queer . My husband seems pleasant with this.
I feel differently. Could my son just have said this because he was angry at me and wanted to upset me? Or, maybe he's just going through a phase. Should I have another conversation with him about this? Should I take him to a therapist? There are no other gays in our family as far as I know.
A Distraught Mother
Dear Mother,
First and top you need to recline down, regroup, and get several deep breaths. Blow out deeply as I say you what I consider. Please try not to be in panic mode. It is highly unlikely that your son told you that he is gay simply to upset you. Gay kids often tell their parents about their sexuality in the middle of a brawl because they feel that they have nothing left to lose since